People don’t want to face their feelings
If you are going through a divorce or have experienced the loss of a loved one it may be easier to buy a new outfit or go on holiday rather than talk about your feelings of fear, anxiety and grief to a total stranger.
Some clients may fear if they start crying they may not be able to stop. However, you are stronger than you think you are and with the right support, your emotions and struggles can be worked through at your pace.
Clients sometimes crave a quick fix
Therapy is a very effective process but does not happen overnight.
Therapy requires you to do the work, often over a period of months, sometimes years. Commitment and dedication to your emotional healing are so beneficial to your life in the long term.
Ashamed to seek help
Everybody no matter what profession or walk of life they come from needs help from time to time. Some of us feel that by seeking help means we are weak or a failure in some way, none of which are true. Unfortunately, social stigmas have a lot to answer for and can deter some people from seeking therapy.
We don’t believe it will work
Will it work for me?
In order for therapy to work you have to show up week in week out and do the work as much as the specialist.
You may want to change your life. You may be curious about therapy but feel hesitant.
Consider these points:-
No investment offers a greater return than your investment in yourself.
“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.”
Resilience can be developed. Loss is a part of all our lives, however practising daily self-care can help you to deal with pressure and reduce the impact that stress has on your life.
Resilience is not just your ability to bounce back from adversity, but also your capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances.
I will go into these aspects in more detail in subsequent newsletters.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence is the measure of an individual’s abilities to recognise and manage their emotions, and the emotions of other people, both individually and in groups.
Emotional Intelligence can be broken down into 5 different categories.
Self-Regulation, Self Awareness, Motivation, Empathy and Social Skills.
Let us look at these in more detail
We need to self-regulate for reliable and healthy emotional wellbeing. To be able to calm yourself down when you are upset and to know what you need to do if you are feeling down so as to make yourself feel happy. This is a skill that anyone can improve on if they so choose to do so. The word ’emotion’ derived from the Latin means ‘to move’. Consistent self-regulation requires focus on your deepest values rather than feelings. Violation of values can produce bad feelings while acknowledging them makes you feel more authentic and empowered.
Being self-aware then is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognise oneself as an individual separate from the environment and others. You are also aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. You know your strengths and weaknesses.
If you are self-aware you have an understanding of other people and you are aware of how they may perceive you in return. While you develop self-awareness your thoughts and interpretations will begin to change. This change in mental state will also alter your emotions and increase your emotional intelligence.
Motivation is the desire to do things, to want to get things done. It is the crucial element in setting and attaining goals. It is the reason for people’s actions, desires and needs. Motivation comes from within the individual.
Empathy is the capacity to understand and feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference. The capacity to place oneself in another person’s world.
These are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other, both verbally and non–verbally. These can be through body language, gestures and our personal appearance.
Why is Emotional Intelligence important in the Workplace?
Emotional Intelligence at work is about how people and relationships function. How well do the people in the organization work together?
It is important because:-
There are many opportunities both in work and life to practice improving your emotional intelligence.
Have a look at the following points:-
The Emotional Intelligent business consistently excels in all these areas and has insight into how this happens.
How to develop Emotional Intelligence
When to use Emotional Intelligence
There are many opportunities both in work and life in which to develop your emotional intelligence.
Take a look at the following points:-
Where to use emotional intelligence
In any situation where you need to share your emotions and speak up for yourself, whilst recognizing what is going on for the other person.
Emotions are not left at the door when you enter the workplace.
Practice and use your Emotional Intelligence to succeed in life.
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Do you have a question or concern about counselling?
Email your questions to me (email@example.com) and I’ll answer them in the next newsletter.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
“Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.”
“You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems but by confronting them courageously.”